From April 24, 2010 For my new Inspired Living segment on Newstalk 1010’s Buddha Lounge Show, it occurs to me that I have created a whole new job description for myself: Look for everything that’s good in the world. Talk about it. Write about it. Teach others to do the same. What could be better than that??? This is the first in a regular series of articles I will be …
Adrift
Well, here I am.Adrift. Floating in the middle of the Sea. I am alone On a raft No one here but me. The anchor had been severed Thank God But now the Lifelines, too. Even the Beacon’s light is out What am I to do? The Moon is Full tonight It Illuminates the air. Still, no compass and alone Edging toward despair. Until the answer emerges It has encircled me …
What is Imago Therapy?
1. Happiness is relational Our greatest happiness in life can stem from a great marriage or long-term romantic relationship. It’s often the source of great sadness and disappointment too. When you break your leg, you can fully expect to be healed. But broken hearts have proven harder for couples counselors to fix. That’s because psychotherapy is a relatively new field, in which approaches which create lasting change are still emerging …
The Imago Dialogue Outline & Instructions
Why Dialogue? Dialogue can help you to keep relationships fresh and dynamic, and to get beneath conflict to rediscover a deeper connection. If I try to resolve conflict in my relationship without creating a true connection with my partner, I may just be patching things up until the next big fight comes along, or even reinforcing the problem. Imago theory shows that most conflicts that have a painful “charge” are …
Imago Dialogue
Imago Dialogue Purpose: Imago Dialogue is a process that ultimately transcends conflict and creates connection and understanding, allowing two realities to exist in a safe context. You initiate a Dialogue when: You want to express your appreciation and love. You want to be listened to and understood. You are upset about something and want to discuss it. You want to discuss a topic that you think might be “touchy.” Begin …
Stay in the Canoe and Paddle: Advice for Couples from Harville Hendrix, PH.D
STAY IN THE CANOE AND PADDLE Advice for Couples from Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. The question I am asked most often is: “What do you do if your partner doesn’t… (do any imaginable thing!) or “What if you are married to someone who is… (any imaginable bad trait or behavior).” In the past I have responded to these questions with answers addressed to the specifics. As I have listened to my …
Being “Real” in “Real-Time”
I know I said I went down the rabbit hole last week and the truth is I never fully climbed out. I was hating being vulnerable and so I was fighting it, tooth and nail. When I wrote about the incident with the chairs at Rooster last week in “The Paradox of Tracy” it was an example of me getting in touch, ever so slightly, with some very real feelings that I …
Seven Questions for Harville Hendrix (from Psychology Today, 2009)
Psychology Today’s Seven Questions project welcomes the perfect guest for Valentine’s Week (2009): Dr. Harville Hendrix, author of the international bestseller Getting the Love You Want and founder of Imago Relationship Therapy. Click here for full article.
Goals & Law of Attraction
From December 4, 2009, This note is in response to one that was forwarded to me by a friend recently, which I felt needed some clarification in terms of how Law of Attraction works. I have included the original note at the bottom of this post. Mr Sivers’ note seems to be focusing on the “announcement” of the “goals”, rather than the intention itself and, in my mind, there is …
Carpe Diem
CARPE DIEM From November 15, 2009 We have become a wasteful society. It is so easy for us to indulge ourselves in unnecessary things for the sake convenience, pleasure or merely distraction. We create or procure much more than we need and then discard the leftovers in favour of the next indulgence. We can’t seem to get enough of what we want and end up with too much of what …
