STAY IN THE CANOE AND PADDLE Advice for Couples from Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. The question I am asked most often is: “What do you do if your partner doesn’t… (do any imaginable thing!) or “What if you are married to someone who is… (any imaginable bad trait or behavior).” In the past I have responded to these questions with answers addressed to the specifics. As I have listened to my …